Is the Light On In Your Marriage?

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Has anyone ever asked you, “Is the light on in your marriage?”

About 17 years ago, a single young woman bought a cocker spaniel puppy from us. (We already had two grown dogs at the time and had agreed to sell this one for our older daughter).

Unfortunately, I had already become attached to it. When I watched that sweet puppy walk out of our lives, I couldn’t hold back the tears. Can you believe that? Before she left, my husband reached over and gave me a tender reassuring hug–nothing unusual.

A Marriage Like Yours

The young lady brought the dog back the next day. Her landlord refused to allow it into the apartment complex. As we talked, she said something totally unexpected: “Someday, I want a marriage like yours.”

“What do you mean?” I hardly knew the girl, and she knew nothing about my marriage.

“You know, the way your husband hugged you when I left yesterday. I could tell you love each other by the look in your eyes.”

Is the Light On in Your Marriage?

It was a simple observation, but we got the message. People are watching our marriages to see if the light’s really on. Before that young lady left, we had the privilege of introducing her to the only Light we know–Jesus Christ.

Even the best marriages experience ups and downs. In fact, we were able to share with that young lady how God’s grace and light had kept us strong even through our times of darkness and greatest marriage mistakes. And we made plenty of those!

But the kind of relationship we have with one another tells a story to those who observe our marriages. And others will be watching. The little things, the big things, how we handle crises, how we treat each other–they all form a picture to those outside our relationship.

God’s desire is that our marriage picture Christ‘s relationship with the Church (the entire Body of Christ followers on earth). Jesus loved the Church and died for us. While we’re not required to give up our lives for one another in marriage, Christ does want us to demonstrate that kind of love to our spouse–an undying, steadfast, faithful-to-the-end love. (See Ephesians 5 for God’s blueprint).

What Kind of Testimony Does Your Marriage Give?

What kind of testimony does your marriage give to others? Do they see a picture of Christ and His love? Does your marriage light the way for them to a find a relationship with Jesus?

Plagued with failure? It’s never too late to begin again. Start where you are. Today is a great time to recommit your lives to each other.

Single? Pray for Others

Are you single? Would you commit to pray for marriages you know, that God would make them a strong picture of His love and a testimony to others of what Jesus did and can do in our lives?

Strong Marriages, Strong Families, Strong Nation

Strong marriages and strong families will make a nation strong, if they accurately picture the love of Christ to others. That “little light” of ours will become a lighthouse to others to help them find Jesus.

P.S. We kept that cocker spaniel. She brought lots of “puppy love” into our home for 11 years, long after the other two dogs had gone. We kept her as a reminder of the simple ways that God’s love–and our marriages can draw others to Him.

“You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16 NIV

My Personal Prayer for You

Lord, keep our marriages strong. Thank you for giving each man and wife in marriage a picture of Your love in Your Word through Christ’s love for the Church. Help us all to reflect Your light in our marriages so that others might see Jesus in us. Push out the dark spaces and light up all the places with Your light. You are the true Light of the World, and You are the only One who can make our marriages what they should be. For those who are hurting, You are the only One who can mend the broken places and rekindle the dying flames in marriage. Help us fight for our marriages, Lord! Make us strong, so our nation can renew its strength and its commitment to You as well. Thank you for Your faithfulness in our lives daily. You light up our lives!

Day-votedly Yours,


It’s Your Turn

What about you? Is the light on in your marriage? I’d love to hear your comments below.

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    10 Responses to “Is the Light On In Your Marriage?”

    1. JASON FROM BORONIA VICTORIA AUSTRALIA on February 14th, 2011 8:42 pm

      I have a girlfriend her name is Melissa we amrk our four year anniversary since we came back together we are not married
      we love each other dearly.
      Jeses is the light of our relatiionship.
      Melissa and I love the Lord with all our hearts, all our souls, all our minds and all our strengeths.

    2. PEGGIE BRIGHT on February 15th, 2011 11:40 am

      My husband and I have had numerous comments of how nice we are to each other and how cute we are together. We have had chances to talk about our love for each other and that it was not always like that. The love of Christ has made that possible. We make an effort to be kind, considerate and loving to each other and no harsh words.

    3. Rebecca on February 15th, 2011 5:24 pm

      Jason, a relationship with Jesus is the basis for any relationship–in dating or in marriage. Thanks for sharing.

    4. Rebecca on February 15th, 2011 5:28 pm

      Peggie, Thanks for sharing about your marriage. I love the grace of God that keeps us growing in Him–through good times and bad!We can always be working on our marriage, whether we’ve been married 5 months or 50 years!And God blesses when we do–just like with you two!

    5. MONIKA PETERS on July 22nd, 2013 7:41 am

      Hi Rebecca my light on my marraige doesn’t shine any more>My Huband left me and my 2 kids a jear and a half ago .He met some one yonger .He said he did not love me anymore out of the blue.
      We are curently busy getting divorced.It is a very hard for me because I believe when you make a commitment before God you don’t separate for each other.That is a promise when made before our Farther.
      I will do anything if I can turn the clock back for us just to have another chances
      I don”t say I not guilty I have mistakes but I did never cheat on my husband.I really love him and the kids miss him very much.I been praying that God will please bring us back together .
      went ever I see him when he pick up the children it is a part off my heart has been cut out.please pray for me .

      i love your site and hope to see and learn a lost from it.

    6. Rebecca Barlow Jordan on July 22nd, 2013 9:25 am

      Monika, thanks for writing. Our hearts hurt for you in this situation. May the Lord comfort your heart and give you peace as you seek to stay close to Him. Don’t allow a root of bitterness to grow up, but instead, focus on your own growth in Christ. Only the Lord can change a heart. We are praying God will give you wisdom as you pray and seek His will in the coming days. Remember that as humans, we sometimes break our promises, but God never does. He is faithful to the end. And He still has great things in store for you as you seek His face daily.

    7. Treasure Ejiasa on July 25th, 2013 4:15 pm

      Hi Rebecca i love this your write up.i had in the past months try to make my marriage work based on my own strength(even when the bible says by strength shall no man prevail).iam making up my mind now to solely depend on God to restore peace,love and the light that has been lost in my marriage.God bless you so much

    8. Rebecca Barlow Jordan on July 27th, 2013 3:28 pm

      Treasure, I’m glad this article was helpful to you. God’s grace and strength is sufficient for all of us.

    9. Henry Spice on August 23rd, 2013 3:11 pm

      Thanks a lot Rebecca, i just goggled God’s plan for our lives and came across your blog. Your have words of encouragement, hope, compassion, kindness and wisdom from God. You have been a blessing to many across the globe including my humble self. Thank you so much for making yourself available as vessel for the Lord. He is using you mightily to restore hope, heal wounded hearts and set the captives free. God bless your warm and beautiful heart. Cheers!

    10. Rebecca Barlow Jordan on August 24th, 2013 10:05 am

      Thank you, Henry, for your encouraging words.

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