Preparing Your Kids for Life: Encouragement for Women, Moms, and Grandmoms

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At one time or another, we moms may think we’re not doing “enough” to prepare our kids for life. Deep down we feel inadequate. We may not feel skilled or talented or creative. Sometimes we even start comparing ourselves to others as parents, which totally makes us feel worse.

Every mom, young or old, is concerned about making wise decisions. Are we giving our children the right training? We fear for our kids. Are they being bullied? Are they safe enough? We all want our kids to “turn out right.”

If you are a mom or grandmom, here are four things to remember that might encourage you as you prepare your kids for life:

  1. God’s bigness is not limited by our smallness. In fact, His power shows up best in our weakness and inadequacies (2 Corinthians 12:9). God uses the little things we do and say for our children. I love the story in the Bible about the little boy who gave his small lunch of five loaves of bread and two fishes. Small boy. Small lunch. But he gave what he had. Jesus took it and fed 5000 men, plus women and children with that simple lunch (See John 6:5-13, Matthew 14:15-21). What am I saying? Think about the mom who probably fixed that boy’s lunch. It was a small gesture. I’m sure she had no idea how God would use that simple offering to her son to reach so many people. God will do great things with even our small investments into our children.
  2. You are not the only influence in your children’s life. That’s good news and bad news. Sometimes we WANT to be their only influence. Not all those who will influence them will be good. But God has also given them friends, teachers, people of positive influence who become heroes in their lives. Do the best you can to lead your kids and teach them by the principles in God’s Word, modeling those principles yourself. Enlist other moms to pray for your child, and offer to do the same for them.
  3. You can pray, lead, teach, and provide. You can set the right boundaries—but ultimately your children still make their own decisions. Pray for your children daily, and commit them to God. And pray for wisdom. God promises to give that when we ask Him. (James 1:5-6). Remember that you are a parent for life—all your life, even though your responsibilities will change as your kids grow up and have their own families. But your influence stays with them long after you leave this earth. Your “preparation” may kick in later for them in ways you never dreamed.
  4. Do what you can, and leave the rest to God. He is a wonderful parent! He knows exactly where to apply pressure, when to encourage, how to humble, and what to do to fulfill His purpose for each child. When you have done your part; when you have done what you could; it’s enough. It’s not easy to do, but trust God to do the rest.

Hear Rebecca Online

The above helps are only a few reminders to encourage you, and ones you’ll find on my recent radio interview. If you’d like to hear more encouraging tips for women, moms, and grandmoms, listen to my online radio interview on “The Parent’s Plate” with host Brenda Nixon. You can hear the entire interview online now on my website/blog. It’s listed in the sidebar. You’ll find an hour of helpful encouragement there.

Hear Rebecca Speak

Another new addition to my website/blog sidebar is a sample of me speaking at one of my past women’s events.

Share Your Own Words of Encouragement

What about you? What other tips of encouragement can you add that will bless other women, moms and grandmoms–particularly in this area of preparing your kids for life? And if you listened to the online radio interview, what encouraged you the most about the things you heard? Feel free to share your comments below. You will not be hounded, prodded, or automatically added to my mailing list if you do so. And your e-mail address does not show to the public, only the name that you use. Feel free to send this blog to someone or to repost on social media, but please do so with the buttons below. If you want to repost any of my blogs on your own blog or website, please contact me for permission first.

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    4 Responses to “Preparing Your Kids for Life: Encouragement for Women, Moms, and Grandmoms”

    1. JASON FROM BORONIA VICTORIA AUSTRALIA on April 7th, 2011 12:15 am

      Grandmoms, Nana’s Nan’s Grnnies which ever you wnat to put things they need so much help to take care of grandchildren. in all awys, shapes and forms.

    2. Nancy Larson on April 7th, 2011 8:32 am

      I think this information is not only appropriate for Mom’s and Grandmothers, but for Dad’s too. All to often these days, I hear of Moms leaving husbands and kids to pursue their own selfish desires. That leaves many Dad’s not only holding the ball as the provider, but now having to learn how to fill a Mom’s shoes as well. I have friends who are in these circumstances. I know your ministry is predominently geared to women, might there be a way for this type of information to be presented more generically so that both genders can benefit from receiving the encouragement?

    3. Rebecca on April 7th, 2011 9:36 am

      Indeed they do, Jason.

    4. Rebecca on April 7th, 2011 9:53 am

      Nancy, you brought up a great point. That is truly an important need. Although I can’t change the interview I did (or the books I wrote about encouraging women, moms, and grandmoms), I can repost this in the future, using parents, rather than just moms or grandmoms in the title and throughout–or just titling this, “Preparing Kids for Life”. I did add tags for both parents and grandparents in this post, which might help some. There are actually many male subscribers to my blog, so hopefully many of them will find this info useful. Several of my devotion books are geared for either men or women, dads or moms. And actually, many dads have bought my books in the past as well as moms and women. My “ministry”–those for whom I write–has always been geared to encourage others–moms or dads, parents or grandparents, women or men, who seek deeper, more intimate relationships with God and others. Those relationships include parenting–for moms or dads. I will try to keep your suggestion in mind for future posts, however, especially in the way I present the encouragement. Thank you for your comments! It was very helpful.

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